Some people have gotten slapped while trying to transit from kissing to sex. It is either they either went about it the wrong way or their women were just not ready. Learn how to do it right with these 7 tips.
Some people may laugh at the title of this article, but Wha’anda knows one or two people who have gotten slapped when they tried to transit from kissing to sex.
Fact is, they got slapped because they either did it the wrong way or their women were just not ready for the next level.
Now, we all know that, when it comes to sex, most women like to play coy — some think it’s immodest to give in to sex easily.
So, many times, it all boils down to the guys’ coyness and many will attest to the frustration of ‘nearly getting laid’ only to be pushed off as things get steamy.
Anyway, if you’re a guy, these 7 tips will help you get there from kissing without being aggressive or offensive to your woman:
A smelly kiss will get you nothing but disdain. Brush your mouth well and maybe chew some mint or rinse with a mouthwash before trying the kiss! Everyone hates bad breath/mouth-odour. Even from a distance, it is a turn-off. Now, imagine having to deal with a mouth to mouth contact with all that stench! She will never allow you get down there unless hers is as smelly.
The ambience is as important as breathing. A soft-sweet setting is more likely to soften a woman’s resolve and let you beyond the kissing zone. Play soft, sensual music. It will relax her and maybe set-up the mood for something kinky and nasty. Some scented candles and dim lighting works too.
Slow and steady wins the race. Rushing will get you nowhere so go slow and steady. Also ensure that you don’t bite off her lips because you want sex. Be in control. Place soft kisses on her lips with about mili-seconds of ‘rest’.
Don’t be a sloppy slob, get creative. Spraying saliva on her face or getting glued to her lips is disgusting. Explore other erogenous zones. Make her feel like ice cream. Kiss her eyes, nose, nape, top of her breasts (not the breasts or nipples!), hands, behind her ears… anywhere and everywhere.
It’s more about loving her body than actual sex. You should not be too much in a hurry to put your hands into her skirt or grab her boobs, buttocks or vagina. Just keep placing soft kisses, trail your fingers on her body, whisper into her ears and act like you just want to worship her body.
Wait at the traffic light … GREEN is for “Go”. It is a fact that women take a little longer than men to get aroused, especially when you’re just trying to get together for the first time. So don’t jump the gun and spoil your progress. Take all the time to get her primed and she will give you the green light by making a move. The move might be eye-contact, a returned-kiss, a moan, a funny smile or she might just tell you to do it or grab your penis.
No means no. Though it’s not always that a woman actually means “NO” when she says so, but a gentle man should be able to link her words with her body language and act accordingly. A woman’s firm “NO” should be respected as a “NO”, otherwise you will have a rape case to answer to. You would be lucky to escape with just a slap.
Remember that the keyword here is “GENTLEMAN” with emphasis on “GENTLE”, as opposed to some people’s aggressive, libido-driven demand for sex.
You don’t demand sex. You earn it by doing the right thing and making the right moves.
Got get ’em and spread the love.